Don’t make these missteps during your divorce

There is so much to keep in mind during your divorce that it’s easy to make some hasty decisions here and there. Those decisions can be pretty consequential in terms of your finances, happiness and the kids’ future.

You understandably want to get the divorce behind you fast. You may even be so flustered, overwhelmed and eager to conclude everything that it’s tough to think clearly – but you must take a deep breath and focus. What you do now may affect you and your children for many years to come. You can all land on your feet, but it will require some wise choices on your part.

4 key tips for success

Often the best route to a successful divorce process is having a plan. If you know what you need to do (and what you shouldn’t do), it can make everything much easier. Here are some suggestions:

1. This is not the time to throw money around extravagantly. It’s smarter to pull back and economize right now.
2. Don’t be totally rigid about any issue. That stance could hurt you as you negotiate. Compromise is key.
3. Forget about haggling over the family home. Putting it on the market, with you and your ex each claiming a share of the money from the sale, could be your best move.
4. Don’t overlook your children’s needs. You can get so embroiled in the divorce details that you pay insufficient attention to your kids. Do things with them that show how much you care. Try to answer their questions and reassure them that you and they will be okay.

You’ll weather this process successfully

It can be challenging and sometimes frustrating, but you can get through your divorce and gently shepherd your kids through it, too. Just think hard about each step you take. Keep your priorities in mind. And if you are unsure of what to do at any point, always ask questions. Experienced legal guidance is available.